Was your childhood normal?

“I grew up with a normal childhood” 

“I felt safe with my parents” 

“I never had any issues in my family”

These are statements I commonly hear from people who have unknown trauma residing inside of them.

You may have had a good childhood but you… 

• Jumped from relationship to relationship 

• Struggle in your relationships

• Experience anxiety 

• Feel lonely 

• Show signs of perfectionism

• Struggle with your career & identity 

• Feel depressed 

• Feel the need to keep up an image

Here’s what closes that gap of wondering why you struggle with these things even though you seemingly had a normal childhood. Emotional safety and the tools to cope with and solve emotional problems. The invisible foundation of our emotional health is the glue that holds our lives together.

Without this, you're left with a gaping hole where true connection and security should be. This is the invisible and devastating truth of emotional neglect.
Emotional neglect is the failure of a caregiver to respond adequately to a child’s emotional needs. Unlike physical abuse, which is about what is done to a child, emotional neglect is about what isn’t done.

Think of a time you felt misunderstood, dismissed, or ignored in your family. If this happened consistently at a young age, you also likely learned to dismiss and ignore your emotions as an adult, which now impacts your relationships, work, and personal life. This is the impact of emotional neglect.

The thing about emotions is that it is this invisible construct that holds the glue to our relationships, our health, and our ability to thrive. But because it’s invisible , it’s hard to see the destructive impact it can have on our lives if we never experienced emotional safety, healthy emotional coping skills, and emotional problem solving. 

This is why understanding your emotions isn't a "nice to have"—it's a "must-have." When you learn to listen to your emotions and respond to them in a helpful way, you're not just healing the past; you're building a foundation for a future where you feel secure and connected with yourself AND in your relationships. Emotional work is the key to unlocking the life you’ve been searching for.

This will be reviewed and taught in my nervous system regulation course.

Consider, what's one thing you've always felt was “normal” about your family, but later realized wasn’t actually normal?